Distance literally means to keep space between two things. Nowadays, we people keep distance with every useful object and keep unnecessary objects close to us.

Like in today’s scenario people are more close to their gadgets or live in the illusion of social media and even living in the same house we find it difficult to explain our thoughts and emotions to our family members and get influenced easily by watching what is going on in social media platforms.

We should distance ourselves from everything that distracts us from our goal or make us feel bad about ourselves, just recall when we were not known to social media, did we find difficulty in communicating our issues to our close ones or did we feel any kind of stress, restlessness, moreover we compared ourselves with everybody around us.

Social media has pros and cons but it depends on us how we individuals use it. Distance yourself with the things or situations which become hurdles towards our goal or ambition. When we individually start putting distance between our overthinking, self doubt, taking stress on small small things, then we can realise life is easy it is just that we make it complicated by comparing our lives with others.

Overthinking – Self doubt – Stress – Comparison = Distance or sorted life.

BY CHIKITA MALHOTRA.

We individuals use this terminology “Inner Voice” in our day to day life to explain others when they are in any kind of sorrow or pain or confusion or not able to make decisions, we just say listen to your inner voice because our inner voice shows us the correct way.

Regardless, hearing our inner voice, we individuals choose to hear other’s opinions and experiences on the varied situations and whatever they tell we just follow that path without analysing or without asking ourselves what we really want and afterwards there is a feeling of missing out or regretting our decisions because at the time of taking stand for our life or career, we just blindly followed the foot steps of others and didn’t heard what our inner voice or our heart is trying to communicate.

In the whole universe no one knows you better than yourself and we don’t need to go anywhere to find out answers for our circumstances which are going in our mind, every answer of our problem lies inside us.

When we start to follow our inner voice, will realise a sense of peace, confidence, and whatever the situation will be in our life, we will face and learn and enhance ourselves.

GUIDANCE TOWARDS ATTAINING ANYTHING IN OUR LIFE+ PEACE + HAPPINESS = INNER VOICE.

BY CHIKITA MALHOTRA.

Whenever we hear about the competitive exam, people have this opinion that government jobs are the best or renounced place to work and start telling us the benefits of it like a good salary, government house to live in, house help and many other perks.
When an aspirant prepares for any competitive exam like UPSC, Judiciary, CAT, CLAT and etc. Why does no one ask the aspirants about their mental health?
If they don’t qualify the exams people around them start questioning their caliber and compare them with others or compare with other aspirants of competitive exams.
While questioning we forget that today’s and previous generations have different patterns and today’s competition has increased.
Every aspirant, those who are preparing for any government jobs it’s their dream to clear it….
Every aspirant (and their family members) need to understand that it takes time and you will face failures and difficulties in your journey but failure is the best teacher to make you realise your flaws and guide you towards the correct path.
The journey between preparation and clearing the exams – an aspirant goes through a lot mentally and feels depressed, frustrated, irritated and they think that if they don’t clear the exam people will call them failure. In all these things aspirants need the support and their family to give time and believe in his or her child’s capabilities.
In this journey of preparation aspirants see a remarkable change in themselves by making them more patient and resilient in order to enhance their professional craft.
Do not take exams as a burden. The biggest exam is life which can be unpredictable to us anytime. So, enjoy the process of learning and always remember failure is a stepping stone to success.

BY CHIKITA MALHOTRA.

Comparison is a contemporary concept which is feeded inside us by our elders and which we forward to our upcoming generations.

Nowadays, every individual is used to comparing each other with small things and which lead to the creation of feelings of jealousy, anger, frustration, irritation and sometimes people get depressed on the things they can’t oppose or can’t afford to lose.

We human beings are aware about our circumstances and surroundings where we belong but this comparison is related to every single thing which is deep rooted inside us. We people used to forget that everything happening in your life is to teach you the beauty of life but we have created a world of comparison which affects us directly or indirectly in our craft like lack of confidence, self doubt and fear to face the world.

Sometimes comparing yourself with another person who is on the same pedestal and that human being is doing good as compared to you then you start to compare yourself with him/her instead you should learn where you are going wrong and how to help yourself to enhance.

C – Correlation
O – Of
M – Marks
P – Personality
A – Award or
R – Rank obtain
I – In the
S – Society, you are
O – Observed as a magnificent human being and individual will
N – Naturally start approaching towards you to know your success mantra.

We people always forget that, we human beings oppose unique talent inside us. We just need to nurture ourselves in that path. The biggest comparison we can do is with ourselves by analysing our mistakes and overcoming our fear which is coming between our success.

Comparison= [Fear – Excuse] + self analysis which leads to achieving our goals.

By Chikita Malhotra.

The word examination creates terror & self-doubt in ourselves, the only question that hammers our brain continuously is – can we clear the exam?
Life is the biggest question paper for every individual in which very few people get to succeed in one go. Everyone has the fear of the examination in every stage of life, but we human being judge our calibre from the point of view of others, we people forget that we know ourselves better than others and we are capable of doing everything in our life.
Every stage of the exam teaches us something about life which becomes our experience. While studying for the exam we used to prepare ourselves for every difficult question similarly life is a question, we don’t know what will be in the question paper but we should be prepared for it. In the exam, we people fail but we gain the experience, of where we are going wrong and that becomes our treasure of life.
From childhood, we had faced many difficult questions related to our life, which we solved and learned from it and we become what we are today. This examines develop us to cherish different shades of us, as human beings. This examination helps us to fight our fear and help us to learn everything is possible in life if we decide to achieve it.
FAILURE + SUCCESS + EXPERIENCE = EXAMINATION OF LIFE.

BY CHIKITA MALHOTRA

Comparison is a key to a mental problem in every individual’s life. Every individual possesses this habit of comparing each other. For example – when a child is small and they obtain less marks as compare to their friends. So, the parents start comparing their children with his/her friend. This is the story of every child in their home.

Comparison creates frustration inside the person which turns into anger and it also makes people frustrated all the time.

Nowadays, every person compares and complain about things like a child say to their parents, see my friend has a lavish life. Why we don’t have the same lifestyle as my friend or nowadays, siblings compare each other on small things which are the biggest issue because comparison is existing amongst us for a longer duration of time which cause-effect in our mental health like people go in depression and they lose the focus from their life and they used to talk rudely with everyone around them.

If we people express our frustration and anger in front of others. So it will create within us, and if we don’t express so we will harm our mental health and become depressed all the time.

Before comparing others ability and capacity to do things. First, we should compare ourselves to what we are capable of and if someone compares us how we will feel. We should think about it.

Comparison has created a question in the mind of people that – can I do this thing? Or am I capable to fulfil my dreams or not? People start self-doubting their abilities because people around them have filled their mind that you can’t do anything good and you’re good for nothing.

We people forget to hear our inner soul which is our true friend who never compared us and always supported us. Believe in your inner voice because it never lies about you.

Frustration + Anger + Depression = Comparison which kill people’s confidence and they doubt their ability. Stop compare rather than focus on how to enhance yourself for the future.

By Chikita Malhotra.

We human being has passed various stages in our life like clearing the exam, facing our problems and so many things. Human beings lives are divided into four stages which are mentioned under the ancient and mediaeval era which is called as Ashrama. The four main phase of life which everyone has to face in their due process of life. So, the four ashrama are:

1. BRAHMACHARYA it states about student life. It focuses on education which helps us to gain knowledge and make ourselves a well-educated person and to attain a well-settled career because education plays an important role in everyone life. This student stage helps us to grow in the various aspect which reflects our personality. This stage lies between 0 to 24 years. When we were a kid, we always used to think when we will become elders life will become beautiful. But the reality is to make our life beautiful we have to impart knowledge and work hard.

2. GRIHASTHA reflects the begin of our household life. It means two people get household journey. This is the most important stage for everyone in their life because they have to do lots of adjustment to make their journey of life work smoothly. In this stage, we have to balance our career, household activities, and has to perform responsibilities properly. Nowadays, people face so many complications to have balance between their professional and personal responsibilities which create a problem in their household life. As time fades, the means of things and value are changing as per scenario. We people are not able to share our thought process, what is going inside us? In this hectic schedule why are we trying to make everyone happy around us.

3. VANAPRASTHA means where the person handed over the household responsibility to next generation. This phase has given more emphasis on having spiritual connection with God. It means to make yourself free from every responsibility of life and focus towards God. The older people try to focus on God but they don’t able to detach themselves completely from worldly activities and sometime worldly activities cause adverse effect on themselves and in their life, which may cause them to live alone without their children, that’s why 70% of families are becoming nuclear family from their grihastha stage.

4. SANNYASA is the stage where people focus on moksha, peace, and spiritual life. People after facing all three phases of life just want Moksha because people had attain and fulfilled their purpose of life.

Life is the round circle, everything will lie here only.

BY CHIKITA MALHOTRA.

A bicycle can be a great teacher for everyone in their life. It teaches us, the art of balancing. While driving bicycle the main motive is to learn how to balance in the both sides.

Similarly, life teaches us, how to balance between personal, professional, emotional, and in a difficult phase.

Bicycle is combined of few components like a handle, pedals, seat, chain, brakes and seat. Similarly, this component reflects our life cycle.

For example:-

Handle show us the path towards life and help us to accept the present.

Pedal helps us to value the present and teaches us to value of everyone in our life. It doesn’t matter it’s good or bad, it will help us to grow and become a good human being.

Seat signifies we should not stick with our past. We should learn from our past mistake and grow and achieve the set goals of our life.

The chain helps us to identify and face every situation of life which make us physically and mentally strong. The chain also reflects life is around the circle which show us, every flavour of human being and life.

Brakes and Tyres are the most important part of the bicycle which entangle with each other. It helps us to have control of our emotions and anger because these two things can become a weapon against an individual in their life. So, we should have a balance between our emotions and anger so that no can misuse it.

Balance is an important part of every individual life. It teaches us the value of every small thing around us.

Path + Mistake + Flavour of life + Control = Balance in our life.

BY CHIKITA MALHOTRA